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The Lovers

Urban soul tarot the lovers

The Lovers are all about love, harmony and self-love. It is about our relationships with ourselves and others. The Lovers is also about the choices we make and the path we take. The people we choose are a reflection of ourselves.

However, the Lovers is first and foremost a card about self-love. It is about mending our fences within ourselves and finding our peace. The Lovers is first and foremost about healing ourselves and being whole. Till we are complete and independent we cannot really reach out and give of ourselves to others.

“It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit.” – Eartha Kitt.

To that effect, the Man in The Lovers card is your logical, rational self, the woman your intuitive inner self and the angel is your connection to the spiritual flow or your superconscious. To stay balanced and complete, it is essential to give each of the three figures their due. Rationality without emotions makes one incomplete, and if we lack empathy and love we can never tap into the universal consciousness, which is the angel in this card. That is the reason why the man stares at the woman. Love if not guided by a certain discipline would make one promiscuous and again left adrift. To have a glimpse of what is bigger than ourselves, rationality needs to be guided by emotions and only then can the divine be perceived. You know that you are in harmony when you are at peace. You are comfortable under your skin and love and accept yourself as you would another. That is the essence of The Lovers- True self-love where you can dare to be your true, genuine self without the need for validation from another.

The Lovers also reminds us of the garden of Eden and the first couple Adam and Eve. The man has the tree of life behind him and the woman stands in front of the tree of knowledge with the serpent. This card subverts the Biblical myth and the angel blesses the union, instead of turning them out of the garden. In fact, the Fall of Man or the expulsion of Man from the Garden of Eden has been known as the "Felix culpa" or lucky fall, which says that the fall of man was a fortunate event, for now, man gets to choose virtue over vice instead of just being created pure. When the Lovers turns up, it may sometimes refer to a relationship of passion! It can also refer to a choice that needs to be made, very much in the manner in which Eve chose to listen to the serpent and eat the apple. How do you choose your partner? What do you look for? A partner is merely a reflection of you, and the partner you choose tells more about who you are.

Meditation On The Lovers

If you’re searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror.

  1. Do you value yourself? Do you give equal precedence to both the logical and emotional aspects of yourself?

  2. What do you look for in a partner? Do you have a type? If so, what does your type, say about you?


Images Used on The Site. Illustrations from the Rider-Waite Tarot Deck, known also as the Rider Tarot and the Waite Tarot, reproduced by permission of U.S. Games Systems, Inc., Stamford, CT 06902. c. 1971 by U.S. Games Systems, Inc. All rights reserved. The Rider-Waite Tarot deck is a registered trademark of U.S. Games Systems, Inc


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